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14 Chicken Dishes Everyone In London Needs To Try…

1. Motherclucker, Brick Lane

Motherclucker

Motherclucker

Tea-brined, twice battered, buttermilk fried chicken that’s motherclucking good. Go for the strips, garnished with zesty lime to bring down the heat a little.

Find them on Facebook here.

2. On The Bab, Old Street and Covent Garden

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On the BabKorean fried chicken that will change your life. Our reccomendation? The sweet/spicy Yangyum chicken. Share a medium if you’re not too greedy.

Follow them on Twitter @onthebab.

3. Butchies, Broadway Market

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Ailbhe Malone Butchies’ Dale Cooper burger (buttermilk fried chicken, lettuce, homemade pickles and lemon thai basil sauce) is the only reason you need to visit Broadway Market on a Saturday.

Find them on Facebook here.

4. Chick ‘n’ Sours, Dalston

Chick 'n' Sours, Dalston

Chick ‘n’ Sours This new-ish place does one thing, and one thing well. That thing is obviously chicken. Vibrant flavours, amazing crunch and their veg sides are truly delicious (try the Szechuan aubergines).

Follow them on Twitter @ChicknSours.

5. Chicken Liquor, Brixton

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Chicken Liquor A burger or boneless bites? The choice is yours. Although the Buffalo Chicken (left), with fried chicken fillet, hot sauce, red onions and blue cheese dressing looks very tempting.

Find them on Twitter @ChickenliquorUK.

6. The Orange Buffalo, Brick Lane (and also elsewhere)

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The Orange Buffalo The Orange Buffalo are best known for their super-spicy wings. Get stuck in, but be prepared to need to cool down after.

Find them on Facebook here.

7. Clutch, Hoxton

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Clutch Triple-fried chicken is a clear draw, but the honey and sesame (right) are the real stars of the show. Come back at the weekend, they do a mega brunch.

Find them on Facebook here.

8. Tramshed, Shoreditch and Bankside

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Tramshed The secret ingredient Tramshed’s buttermilk chicken wings? The Ribman’s Holy Fuck Sauce.

Follow them on Twitter @The_Tramshed.

9. The Clove Club, Shoreditch

The Clove Club, Shoreditch

The Clove Club For a fancier option, visit the (recently) Michelin-starred Clove Club. Their buttermilk fried chicken comes in a basket with pine leaves, and pine salt. It’s breathtakingly good.

Find them on Facebook here.

10. Whyte and Brown, Oxford Circus

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Whyte and Brown have some healthier options, but make sure to go for the buttermilk goujons to start. If you’re feeling really brave, try their roasted chicken skins (left) as a snack.

Find them on Facebook here.

11. Rita’s Bar and Dining, Hackney

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Rita’sPlay your cards right, and go to Rita’s for dinner. Start with the wings (left) and continue with a half fried chicken to share – served with a warm sausage gravy. YUM.

Find them on Facebook here.

12. Spit and Roast, various locations

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Spit and Roast Whether it’s a buttermilk fried chicken bap (right), or chicken pieces (left), be sure to douse your meal in Spit and Roast’s signature secret hot sauce.

Check out their location schedule here.

13. Jinjuu, Oxford Circus

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Jinjuu A neat Korean bar and restaurant that serves a mean Korean fried chicken. Come on Sundays – you can order a whole fried chicken (to share, if you want).

Find them on Facebook here.

14. Chicken Shop, Tooting/ Kentish Town/ Holborn/ Whitechapel/ Balham

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Chicken Shop Sometimes, you want a slightly healthier option. Chicken Shop’s chicken is spit-roasted, rotisserie-style, and comes served with their signature crinkle cut chips. Don’t forget to follow up with some apple pie.

Want an even more laid-back choice? Visit Fish, Wings and Tings in Brixton for arguably the best grilled wings in London.

15 Differences Between Beautiful people and Truly Beautiful people…

What is your definition of true beauty? Is it a drop-dead bombshell with stunning hair, perfect bone structure and eye lashes that reach the sky? By the massive amount of YouTube videos focusing on how to enhance the way we look with all sorts of beauty products and tricks, it should come to no surprise that our culture may be a bit confused about the true meaning of beauty. What is true beauty? Read on and find out the 15 differences between beautiful people as the YouTube world and media see it and truly beautiful people.

1. Beautiful people are easily overlooked, while truly beautiful people have an everlasting effect.

Charm can be deceiving and beauty fades away, but true beauty never does! While beautiful people are more focused on the passing beauty and fading good looks, truly beautiful people understand that true beauty comes from within; it is the source of kindness and love you display towards everyone around you. Kindness is what makes true beauty come to life and no one can ever take it away from you. It can last forever.

2. Beautiful people fit in, while truly beautiful people do not conform.

While beautiful people strive to look like the model on the magazine, truly beautiful people strive for individuality. What makes you truly beautiful is not how you conform to the ideas of the world, but how you make the world conform to your ideas and your beautiful mind.

3. Beautiful people are generic, while truly beautiful people are like a masterpiece.

Mozart began writing music at age 6. Three centuries later, his music is still admired and inspires millions around the world. Truly beautiful people are very much like Mozart’s compositions; they have the power to impact lives and inspire the world even after hundreds of years have passed.

4. Beautiful people are selfish, while truly beautiful people focus on giving.

Unlike superficial beauty which is mostly focused on fulfilling selfish desires, true beauty comes from what the heart gives. The selfless smile you give away, the hug you share with a friend in tears, and the food you make to share with those in need—that’s what makes you truly beautiful!

5. Beautiful people seek perfection, while truly beautiful people embrace imperfection.

There is something beautiful about imperfections: it features your incomparable qualities; it makes you human. While beautiful people may think beauty is found in the flawless skin, size 2, stunning tan and long flowing hair; truly beautiful people understand beauty is instead found in the birthmarks, the extra little fat around the waist, the messy hair when you first wake up and the real you without make up. True beauty is found in how imperfect you are and how real you dare to be.

6. Beautiful people get confidence from looks, while truly beautiful people get confidence from within.

While beautiful people are all about how they look and how the world perceives them physically, truly beautiful people understand there is something absolutely stunning and fascinating about confidence that is founded in courage, experience and wisdom. That same confidence reminds you that although you may not fit in or look the part, your beauty is unparalleled because of your knowledge and your ability to see your worth even when the rest of the world fails to see it.

7. Beautiful people lose beauty, while truly beautiful people’s beauty is timeless.

When I was a little girl, I couldn’t wait to be a teenager. When I was a teenager, I couldn’t wait to be an adult. Now that I am an adult, I am looking forward to my later years in life. Perhaps that desire comes from seeing how timeless true beauty is and how it is inevitably found in every stage of life. The trick is to enjoy each moment and understand there is a time and a season for everything. While beautiful people believe beauty is only found in the younger years, truly beautiful people understand that true beauty is timeless only when you have the courage to embrace everyday, every new journey, every new blessing in disguise and when you refuse to believe the lie the world tells of beauty dissipating in your old age.

8. Beautiful people are born, while truly beautiful people are made.

Unlike the ridiculous characteristic of superficial beauty where everyone is expected to look the same with minor variations, true beauty does not discriminate. Truly beautiful people understand that true beauty is attainable the moment you choose to embrace it. The moment you choose to embrace everything that is selfless, kind, courageous and loving about you, true beauty surfaces transforming you from the inside out, molding you into a timeless masterpiece, a true work of art.

9. Beautiful people lack drive, while truly beautiful people are passionate.

While beautiful people may be so focused on their looks they miss fully experiencing life,  truly beautiful people know you can’t have true beauty without passion. Passion is that desire for living and enjoying everything that makes you human, everything that makes you feel alive. There is nothing quite as irresistible as living in the moment, fully willing to experience each second and savor each opportunity of laughter and love life offers. True beauty is found in the passion you bring into your work and relationships. Passion fuels true beauty like no other thing can.

10. Beautiful people live in fear, while truly beautiful people live daringly.

While beautiful people are completely afraid to rock the boat and step out of their comfort zone, truly beautiful people are daring. The courage found in trying something new, in feeling vulnerable and exposed is what true beauty is all about. The possibility of failing and the courage to dare anyway is at the heart of those who are truly beautiful.

11. Beautiful people love conditionally, while truly beautiful people love without reserve.

Beautiful people are concerned with getting their feelings hurt and put up walls to ensure that never happens.  Truly beautiful people understand that in love, just like in life, what you give is what you get.  Truly beautiful people are focused on loving fully and thoroughly despite the cost.

12. Beautiful people give up easily, while truly beautiful people embrace perseverance.

Beautiful people are so focused on instant gratification they easily give up on what they pursue.  Truly beautiful people understand good things take time and therefore, they are willing to persevere at all cost to reach the desired end.

13. Beautiful people lack perspective, while truly beautiful people understand the things that matter.

While beautiful people are focused on the new fashions and latest Kim Kardashian gossip, truly beautiful people know there are more important things in life.  Truly beautiful people focus on what is going on around them and how it affects those they love. They strive to serve and live lives that are worthy of praise.

14. Beautiful people are reckless, while truly beautiful people embrace patience.

While beautiful people are used to getting their way in every possible way due to their physical attributes, truly beautiful people know that “good things come to those who wait.” Truly beautiful people embrace the moment when patience must be exercised and time measured not by how quickly it passes by but by how much living is taking place in the passing time.

15. Beautiful people are proud, while truly beautiful people embrace humility.

Beautiful people are so proud of what they look like that they fail to embrace and get in touch with their humble spirit.  Truly beautiful people understand that “pride comes before destruction and an arrogant spirit before the fall.” Therefore, truly beautiful people embrace humility and strive to serve instead of being served.

20 Things Only Women Turning 40 Would Understand…

Ageing is something that is often only talked about in hushed voices with a carefully chosen group of friends. People fear old age, and that’s completely normal, but counting 40 as old age is a really silly thing to do. I guess we can just blame Hollywood or fashion magazines for the unrealistic expectations we have when it comes to beauty and ageing, particularly for women, but they are not the only ones that demonize mature women. The media went crazy with the recent Caitlyn Jenner story, and some of the remarks related to age were just appalling.

Well, you know what, I’ve learned a lot from the older women in my life, and I hope I’ll be able to share some of the great advice and life lessons with the younger generations one day. Turning forty is nothing to fear. In fact, it has its own set of unique perks, and there are lots of important things a woman learns by the time she turns forty.

1. We have to learn to let people down gently

While it may be much less time consuming and irritating to just turn someone down with a few simple words and a cold stare,  it’s usually not the best way to go about things. Whether it’s a guy at the club asking for your number, or a friend looking for a favour, you need to gracefully declinepeople in order to avoid conflict or feeling bad afterwards.

2. We know no one else can tell you how to live your life

Your parents, as well as every grandmother, aunt, cousin, sister, brother, friend, boyfriend or girlfriend, and colleague will have something to say about how you should live your life. You can’t please everyone, so don’t try to please anyone and just do the things that make you happy. It’s good to ask for some feedback, but it is ultimately your life and your opinion is the one that counts.

3. We will earn lots of respect and trust through the art of active listening

It can be difficult for people to keep quiet and let another person speak for a while, and even then a lot of us are just thinking about what we are going to say next instead of absorbing what the other person is trying to tell us.Active listening is a skill, and as a woman matures, she learns just how powerful of a tool, or even a weapon, it can be.

4. We do whatever it takes to feel sexy and confident

You may feel like the person you are is dictated by the way you look, and you may feel like you can’t change the cards that you have been dealt. However, it’s all about how you feel on the inside and your actions that can be used to define you, and you have the right to feel good in your own body.

There’s a lot you can do about aesthetic issues like having bags under your eyes, wrinkles or any other features that you don’t find too appealing. Exercise, aesthetic surgery and good cosmetics can make you feel sexy and confident, and it is incredibly important that you feel this way on a daily basis. But remember that you don’t need to change a thing about yourself, because you’re already beautiful.

5. We know that when we want something done right, we have to do it ourselves

Delegating your work is sometimes necessary, but it’s a bad idea to get used to relying on others for help. Not only are a lot of people a bit irresponsible, but you also get things done a lot quicker when you do them yourself without waiting on others and getting stressed about the whole situation.

6. We need only a couple of good girlfriends and a bottle of wine to get through tough times

Never keep things bottled up inside for too long – calling up a couple of friends, opening a bottle of wine and having a good long talk is one of the best ways to let go of frustrations and grudges. It is a form of mental cleansing that every woman should do at least once a week.

7. We have to calm ourselves down first, before trying to calm others down

You may think that you are being the rational and collected one who is waving a white flag and offering peace, but nine times out ten both parties in an argument are acting out without even noticing it. There always needs to be one side that is somewhat calm if you don’t want things to get out of hand, so it’s very important to take a few deep breaths and calm yourself down, before trying to talk another person down.

8. We find quality sleep to be the elixir of youth

Some say it’s the food we eat, others stress the benefits of exercise, and romantics point to love, but, while all these things are good for your physical and mental well-being, a full 8-9 hours of quality sleep every night will really do wonders for you. Sure, sometimes we need to sacrifice a bit of sleep for an evening of good sex, but we should strive to get as much rest as we can during the week.

9. We understand that there’s a difference between having fun and wasting money

When you’re younger you simply throw money away in the name of fun and relaxation, not really caring about saving up. However, as any responsible mature woman who has dabbled in couponing will tell you, there is a way to spend less without sacrificing much in the way of comfort. Spending a Friday night at home and cooking your own dinner is perfectly fine, as a few quiet nights will allow you to save enough money to go on a vacation in a few months.

10. We know jealousy, envy and anger just drain our energy and ruin relationships

People can be quite bad at times, and it is good to keep your guard up or even get emotional every now and then. However, strong emotions can hijack your life and ruin relationships if you let them. Sure, we will all become jealous or angry at some point, but you need to be confident enough to keep your feelings under control. Having something lingering in the back of your mind doesn’t do you any good. You can get addicted to feeling sad or angry, but letting go is the best option.

11. We’ll drop a topic if someone isn’t nearly as enthusiastic about it as we are

Did you ever get the feeling that people weren’t that into a topic you were passionately raving on about for 30 minutes? Let’s be honest, I’ve been guilty of this many times myself, and a lot of people will let you ramble on for fear of offending you. The simple solution is to drop the conversation when you sense indifference, but this requires some of that active listening we mentioned before, i.e. allowing other people to chime in with their opinion. You’ll also have to pick up on the subtle, and not so subtle body language cues that are a clear indication that your friend is disinterested and bored.

12. We have life experience that trumps book smarts and theoretical skill

You’ll meet tons of vibrant young people who talk about life, love, philosophy and politics, but it’s easy to see that they parrot a few articles and the 2-3 books that they’ve read. And that’s if they care enough to do some research. You, on the other hand, have 20 or more years of firsthand experience with all manner of people and situations, which means that your opinions will have more weight, and that you can outperform ambitious, but inexperienced youngsters.

13. We get to have plenty of great sex

With all that life experience, financial freedom, confidence and sexiness, expect to have some great sex. While the old belief that women reach their sexual peak later in life has been challenged by recent studies, you can’t argue with the fact that at this point you are more in-tune with your body and a whole lot more experienced with romance. We know how to pick out the good ones when choosing a partner, and we know full-well how to make him or her happy.

14. We have learnt to get along with the people we work with

Every woman has her share of workplace stress, and a few stories about difficult co-workers that she likes to tell in order to vent a bit, but in the long run it’s best to develop a positive relationship with the people at work. Many business professionals have stressed the importance of team building activities, and even something as simple as a night at the bar with some of your colleagues can really help ease tension at work by building trust and empathy between you.

15. We hold ourselves accountable, which makes solving problems much easier

The moment you start acknowledging the fact that you are responsible for your own life choices, and that there isn’t always someone to blame for your misfortune, is the moment you begin to work harder on solving the problems that keep pulling you back. Giving up the notion that you are somehow owed something by those around you or society in general is the most liberating experience.

16. We have overcome adversity, and we know what we are truly capable off

We all think we’d do well in certain situations and fail miserably at others, but when faced with these situations a lot of people find that the opposite is truth – you might choke up while giving a speech that you have practiced for hours and hours, and on the other hand you might pull someone out of a car wreck and safe his or her life while others stand by paralyzed with shock.

You need a bit of adversity to help strengthen your character and let you find out things about yourself you didn’t know before. At forty, you’ve got plenty of adversity behind you, and you know yourself much better. To paraphrase an ancient general and master strategist: if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.

17. We know our limits, and that actually makes us stronger

The feeling of invincibility you have as a teenager and young adult slowly goes away as you come face to face with some of the harsh realities of the world, but knowing exactly where your limits lie doesn’t clip your wings and make you abandon your dreams. In fact, this knowledge only helps you adapt and choose the best strategy when faced with a challenge.

18. We allow other people to have different opinions

Immature people tend to be very arrogant and think that their opinion is all that matters. Even in terms of fashion sense or taste in music, which are incredibly subjective, some people think that what they like is “the right way”, and will put everyone else down. Over the years, you learn to live and let live – cohabiting, going out and having fun with people with views and sensibilities fairly different from your own.

19. We know love can grow, blossom, and wither away, but you will find it again

When you’re younger love is this huge thing that makes you feel like no one’s ever felt before. However, all relationships go through several phases. The truth is that you can fall deeply in love with someone over several months, feel that your heart is so full that it could just burst, get so attached to them in the next couple of years that you can’t imagine life without them, and then just have that feeling slip away quietly, leaving you indifferent and lonely.

People can also turn out to be jerks, and outside factors may pull people apart. The good news is that we can find this feeling over and over with the right people, and it may even last a lifetime if you find someone who’ll work as hard on the relationship as you will.

20. We are able to provide for ourselves and those we love, and it gives us tons of confidence

One of the biggest problems with self-esteem in young people stems from the fact that they are overly-dependent on others. Their parents have a big say in how and what they do, their peers affect the way they dress and behave, and they are limited by a lack of funds and skills. A woman turning 40 is able to provide for herself and the people she loves, and this gives her the confidence to be herself, stand up for her beliefs, and challenge others when they step over the line. There is no feeling like having enough financial independence to call your own shots.

When all is said and done, life beyond forty presents an exciting new chapter in every woman’s life. Reaching a mature age is not viewed as something negative – at forty we still have plenty of time to enjoy ourselves, only now you know better and can make smarter decisions.

8 Daily Habits Of The Happiest People In The World…

If only there was a machine that could measure the level of happiness and distinguish what affects it… Oh wait, there isn’t. And yet, in most cases, we can tell a happy person from an unhappy one. Why is that so? We’ll look at some of the happy people and explore their routines. As these are different people, their habits may seem to contradict each other, but that’s just a surface of things. Needless to say, these habits won’t necessarily make you happy; still, they may be a great source of inspiration for another joyful day. What do happy people do?

1. They value family and company

Indonesians are a well-known proof of a popular axiom ‘wealth is not everything’. Living in slums, not having enough fresh water, facing tsunamis and the discomforts of overpopulation, they rejoice in their families and friends. In the country where different ethnicities and religions coexist, there is a special sense of tolerance. The national survey reports that it’s family matters that make Indonesians so happy.

2. They try to fulfill their basic needs

In many respects, especially those connected with climate, we can’t change our comfort zone, but this is not the reason to deprive yourself of those basic needs that can be fulfilled. What about the joys of sleep? Richard Shane, a scientist who once suffered through insomnia, has dedicated an entire series of articles to sleeping well. They feature the matters that are not covered in the literature of this kind too often, for example, about relaxing your tongue. The scientist says that sleep deprivation can really make you unhappy, and on the contrary, healthy sleep has enormous positive impact.

3. They help other people

This works simply and surely: when you help others, you are not alone in this world, and happiness of others makes you happy, too.

Mahatma Gandhi was reported to say, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

Working with pets often helps overcome depression.

4. They can stand up and say no

There is a chance you can be lost in volunteering and helping others – in a bad sense. As every worker, volunteers may get a burnout, which has already become a popular research subject.

Sonya Derian says, “If you say yes to everything, never discerning the right yes for you, what difference does it make what you’re saying yes to? Your yes loses its authority”.

5. They stop living for the future

Alan Watts, a philosopher and writer who used to popularize Eastern philosophy in Britain, particularly in his book ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety’, argues that we live in the future too much. Craving to live better, people hurry, work too hard, and struggle emotionally for the sake of abstract future. But it is possible to live happily in the present without the assurance that the future will also be good.

 

6. They have a dream

Another Eastern concept of happiest people gaining popularity in the West is ikigai, “the reason you wake up in the morning”, and some happy people definitely have one. The legend has it that one woman was returned to life after a lethal disease when to the ancestors’ question ‘Who are you?’ she answered: “I am the one who wakes up each day to care for my family, and nurture the young minds of the children at my school”. A dream is something about the future, and yet it can shape your happy present.

7. They make things happen

They don’t cry for the moon and don’t complain. Despite of his ASL, Stephen Hawking has made prominent scientific discoveries. What is more, he found vivid words to tell the world about his findings.

8. They can wait

Sophie Fontanel is a writer who spent many years in deliberate celibacy. Not that she didn’t want sex at all and not that she was against it. She only insisted that people can wait. They don’t need to force themselves info relationships just for the reason that everyone does it. This waiting is not at all like waiting for a prince.

“I think it’s a mistake to think that women are always expecting love. We are expecting to be in good hands, even if these good hands are just for two nights or one week”.

This doesn’t mean that you have to live in celibacy but it means that sometimes you have to wait for what you desire. Happy people can be passionate about other cravings just like this.

20 Secrets Genuinely Happy People Never Told You…

Happiness is a choice, and genuinely happy people make the choice to be happy, everyday! But what you may not know is that happy people face challenges, just like ordinary folk, but they challenge themselves, constantly, to live the wonderful life they know they deserve; filled to the brim with laughter and a positive outlook.

We don’t need to tell you that life isn’t all roses, and will often times bring you to your knees, but it is during these moments that happy people go to work on getting happy. If they look like they have it all together, they probably do, but that’s just because they’ve discovered the secrets to true happiness, and it lies within them.

So if you’ve ever wondered, “Why are they so happy all the time?”, here are a few reasons, and secrets, why.

1. They’re not happy all the time.

Let’s be honest, nobody is happy all the time, and with good reason. It’s the down that shows us the beauty of the ups. The genuinely happy individual knows this and allows themselves to feel sad or down, naturally. Trying to force happiness is, well, forced. So they embrace the sadness, the tears and the obstacles and give themselves permission to just be. They are human after all.

2. They have learned to say no.

It sounds strange, but saying “no” doesn’t come easy for some people. Especially if you’re the type who loves to make others happy. However, genuinely happy people don’t buy into the idea of keeping others happy if you’r always down as a result. This is a sure fire way to stress and anxiety, and it kind of defeats the purpose of the whole happiness thing. Instead, they exercise their right to say no, and do so in an assertive manner, that neither takes away from their relationships, or their own happiness.

3. They haven’t led easy lives.

No genuinely happy person will tell you they’ve had it cushy! They may have been knocked down many times, but each time, they got up, refusing to stay down! The strength and gusto they mustered to get back up and keep fighting is what showed them the meaning of true happiness. If you can make it through the difficult times with a smile on your face, you’re winning, and who wouldn’t be happy with that!

4. They know what the bottom looks like.

They’ve been to the bottom more times than they can count, and they’ve worked their way back up. To mere mortals, landing at the bottom after great success would signal the end, but for the genuinely happy person, it’s just an opportunity to start afresh; to build a better and stronger foundation. They learnt a lot on the way up, and learnt a lot more on the way back down. No experience is wasted, and so they move forward armed with that knowledge!

5. They love their flaws.

For them, being perfectly imperfect, is perfect! They’ve come to terms with who they are and have accepted their flaws, warts and all. They know it is all just a part of what makes them special, and they love it! They understand there is no such thing as perfection, and have not only stopped chasing it, but discovered imperfections are just as brilliant!

6. They avoid stress in their lives.

Whether it’s through meditation, getting away, or through a creative outlet, genuinely happy people actively go out of their way to avoid anyunnecessary stressful situations, and move on from them as quickly as possible. This is in no way avoidance, but a strategy which allows them to concentrate on the things that truly matter, and stops annoying little stresses from turning into something far greater.

7. They exercise.

What better way to get happy than to do something that releases those naturally happy chemicals from within. They have tapped into the world of healthy living and exercise not just to look good, but because it makes them feel even better! Whether they’re running outdoors, or getting in those reps at the gym, the happy person knows the benefits of those wonderful endorphins.

8. They know they’re enough.

They don’t need the latest or the greatest, and they don’t attach their self-worth to external things. They’ve learnt that no one thing can make them happy or make them feel fulfilled. In relationships, they have a, “take me as I am” attitude. They may have battled with their self-worth in the past, chasing things they thought would make them a better person, but now they know they are perfect just the way they are.

9. They don’t judge.

They have no need or want in judging others, because they don’t like to be judged themselves. They prefer to let others live their lives as they wish. Worrying about what others are doing, or not doing, is unnecessary and time consuming, and only leaves the person judging with a false sense of superiority. The happy person has no need for that, and would prefer to use their time to uplift others rather than tear them down.

10. They know how to refocus.

Whatever problem they are facing, there is always another way to look at things. By refocusing, they can approach a difficult problem with fresh eyes. Refocusing offers new perspective, and with a new perspective comes a new solution.

11. They haven’t lost their childlike wonderment.

They are children at heart! They live, laugh and love with the infectious playfulness of a person untainted by a harsh world. It’s this approach to life that keeps them inquisitive and creative, and let’s face it, makes them so much fun to be around!

12. They deal with fear head on.

Fear has no place in the genuinely happy persons life. They are victorious in their quest for happiness and equip themselves with an arsenal of bravery, moving forward with happiness as their armour. Yes, it’s scary, but that’s all part of the dance. By facing their fears, they take back control of their lives, and nothing is allowed to come between them and their happiness.

13. They take risks.

Risk takers are happier folk! They know that stepping out from your comfort zone and navigating new territory is not only thrilling, but a sure way to experience the new and wonderful things life has to offer. What drives them is growth and the potential to learn more about who they are, and what they can accomplish. They know there’s a chance they may trip up or fall, but for them, failure is just another lovely life lesson.

14. They bear no grudges.

The happy person does not hold on to past hurts or anger. Instead they prefer to let go of the pain, and move on with life. There’s no better way to destroy happiness than to carry around old baggage that inevitably weighs you down. The genuinely happy person knows this and so they acknowledge the hurt and pain, forgive and dust themselves off, and move forward, happier and lighter.

15. They encourage others.

They are genuinely happy to see others happy and living their lives to their full potential. It genuinely makes them happy to see others thriving, and so they do all they can to support and encourage those they love and care about. They are also encouraged by others successes, not jealous. It’s a win-win!

16. They love to laugh.

The happy person sees the fun, and funny side of life and aims to always look on the bright side. They are truly joyous in laughter and can make even the stony faced individual crack a smile. They know there’s no better healer, along with time, than laughter. It not only lifts their spirits but does a lot to make an otherwise stressful situation easier to manage.

17. They are honest with themselves, first.

They can lie to others all they want, but they are all too aware of that little voice in their head; the one that reminds them they aren’t being entirely honest with themselves. Having the courage to admit things to yourself is the first step in being honest and comfortable with who you, before you can be honest with others. It’s scary, but it must be done. The genuinely happy person knows this is what’s required if they are to be their authentic selves, because there’s nothing like dishonesty to throw your happiness compass out of wack!

18. They ask for help.

They know that asking for help doesn’t make you weak, and so they don’t feel weak, or otherwise, in asking for help. Instead, they see it as an opportunity to get another perspective on an idea or a situation, or for someone to help share the heavy load. They realise they may not always have the answer, or strength, to do all things on their own and so welcome a helping hand, or friendly advice as though it were a gift. They know asking and receiving help takes nothing away from who they are, but can only add to their life and experiences.

19. They embrace differences.

There’s one thing all humans have in common: we are all different! Genuinely happy people are aware of these differences, be it race, religion sex, views or any other differences that may set us apart from one another. They do not try to negate those differences but rather, embrace them, and celebrate them. For the genuinely happy person, the world would be an utterly boring place if we were all the same!

20. They love life.

With all its ups and down, in and outs and highs and lows, life for the sincerely happy person is an adventure that we would all do well to appreciate. The scars and bruises makes us appreciate the smiles and glories more. Understanding this, they don’t fight life, but take it for what is. They do what they need to do to make life enjoyable, productive and worthwhile, but they know that to truly appreciate the journey, sometimes you have to sit back and enjoy the ride!

16 Things You Don’t Need To Say Yes All the Time (Though You Think You Do)…

There are two words I consider one of the most powerful and influential, namely “yes and “no.” The right combination of them and using the right one according to the situation guarantees you more happiness, health and wealth.

To be nice and avoid hurting others, we often say yes though we feel like saying no. Whereas empathy is a good feature to have, being a people-pleaser has terrible consequences.

If you ever regretted saying yes, these 16 examples will help you to not make the same mistake again.

1. You don’t need to say yes to people asking for your time.

Some say time is money, but in reality, there’s one thing that makes time the real wealth. Namely, once it’s gone, it’s gone forever. Whereas money can always be made up, time never goes back.

Now, don’t misunderstand it with being insensitive ignorant, it’s far from that! When someone ask for your time, don’t say yes when it conflicts with your personal priorities. If you think this person deserves your attention, schedule one day of a month when you can devote your attention to them.

2. You don’t need to say yes to people asking for your money.

There is an adage which says don’t let your friends borrow money unless you don’t mind never getting it back. If you can’t accept them never paying back, it’s a sign you should decline. Borrowing money can destroy your relationships with other people and make your life really tense. Oftentimes, it’s better to deal with the temporary discontent when you say no than experience the problems later on.

3. You don’t need to say yes to people who clearly exploit you.

When someone approaches you only during struggles, you are just a tool to solve their problems. It’s when somebody only takes and never gives that you should consider stop saying yes. Sure, you should contribute value to other people’s lives, but folks who batten on generosity are not ones who deserve it.

4. You don’t need to say yes to please your friends.

Saying no to a friend is tricky. You care about them and feel obliged to act accordingly. The truth is, a real friend will accept your refusal because they value your close friendship. It’s false people who leave you in case of disagreement.

5. You don’t need to say yes while under social pressure.

Social pressure can be a huge obstacle to overcome. People expect you to go with the flow and please them. Saying no requires courage and confidence but oftentimes it’s a lifesaving decision. Every time you don’t say yes under a big group pressure, you clearly show your values which everyone respects even whey they don’t admit it.

6. You don’t need to say yes so you fit in.

Similar to the previous example, people in the crowd subordinate so in order to not stick out, you are expected to submit to their influence. But at some point everyone comes to the conclusion that fitting in is unnecessary and only causes regrets.

7. You don’t need to say yes when rules and dogmas limit you.

Different environments set clear expectations toward behavior within the group. Whereas some rules are necessary so the society can function, there are many dogmas you have a full right not to follow. Embrace who you are and don’t let the outdated doctrines change it.

8. You don’t need to say yes to tradition and religion.

Born among people who set religion and tradition as the highest priority, you are expected to worship these values. If, however, deep in heart you don’t consider them as truths, that’s a clear sign to refuse following them.

When I stated to my family that I see religion differently than they do, I faced disapproval. As the time goes by, however, the tension expires and you feel proud of being your true self.

9. You don’t need to say yes to your parents.

Being able to do this is might be as hard as it is to differentiate between following your heart and being unappreciative toward your parents. They love you and want you to live the best life possible, but sometimes it’s you who knows better your deepest desires.

When you parents expect you to choose a certain career path, remember it’s you and not them who will be obliged to that lifestyle.

10. You don’t need to say yes to your boss.

Be cautious, I don’t intend to make you lose your job! But then again, if you do have alternatives and your current boss destroys your life, maybe it’s time to say goodbye and part ways.

11. You don’t need to say yes to things that make your priorities secondary.

If you don’t respect your values, nobody will. You are responsible for what happens in your life and it’s the moment when you fully accept this responsibility when you can finally give your goals the top priority.

12. You don’t need to say yes to things fighting for your attention.

Today’s world attacks you with distractions on a regular basis. A skill to ignore stuff begging for your attention is invaluable to survive. Remember, whatever you decide to pay attention to, you might be neglecting things that actually matter.

13. You don’t need to say yes to sales and extra offers.

I know it’s often hard not to lose your mind during the sales. And marketers are people who know it best. Various psychology tricks are applied to make you say yes and follow the sales funnel.

At first, you feel instant happiness, but then, as your wallet gets thinner and what you bought collects dust, you begin questioning whether saying no wouldn’t be a wiser decision.

14. You don’t need to say yes to email offers.

As someone who likes to subscribe to interesting newsletters, I know how  tempting certain offers are. You are presented with an almost perfect offer. As a result, a new need is created and a product for its satisfaction sold. But if you wouldn’t open the email, would you even desire that very product or service?

15. You don’t need to say yes to time-suckers.

Television, Internet or Social Media, these are all the wonders of technology which revolutionized the world of communication and information. But if you don’t control them, they will control you. It’s easy to get lost staring at the screen and mindlessly wasting your time. Your brain tends to say yes to comfortable situations and time-suckers definitely count to that.

As we determined in the first point, your time is the most precious resource so protecting it is obligatory.

16. You don’t need to say yes to notifications.

I disabled every possible digital notification, expect an app that reminds me to work out and it does it at the right time. But it wasn’t always like that. Facebook notifications would immediately catch my attention and destroy my focus. Almost any serious app makes sure to notify its users so they stay engaged and active.

Whereas it’s definitely beneficial to the founders, it’s incredibly harmful to yourself. Turn off every unnecessary notification and never again say yes to distractions begging for your attention.

 

10 Things You Don’t Need Anyone’s Approval For (Though You Think You Do)…

You are probably a free person with access to the global Internet and similar luxuries. However, there’s one thing that’s dangerous to your freedom. It’s the seek for other people’s approval. Plenty of folks base their own lives on the opinions of others, afraid to lose validation and be criticized. To me, it’s a deadly disease that paralyzes your ability to pursue your dreams. Fortunately, it’s curable so anyone can reclaim their freedom.

If you are an unconfident person who often isn’t authentic in order to please other people and you’d like to change it, you are in the right place. Over time, you’ll laugh at your past fears and proudly follow your intuition in lieu of sticking to outdated dogmas.

1. You don’t need approval for changing your style.

Let’s begin with the appearance. Are you bored with your current look and you’d like to transform your image? You’d like to make a change, but people are used to your current presence and a drastic modification will definitely draw attention. You know what?

People may talk and judge, but that’s the way it works. You can either accept it and stay authentic anyway or you can live as a slave of their opinions. What might be shocking today, will become a boring reality over time, and you won’t even notice how quickly everyone will get used to your new self.

2. You don’t need approval for changing your social circle.

You are the reflection of the five people you spend the most time with. Without wishing to sound cliché, this sentence has to be mentioned since the most profound life lessons are actually found in adages. It might be the case that your current environment prevents you from becoming who you’d like to be. Some people are great companions, radiating with positive energy while others might spread nothing but negativity.

It’s your responsibility to adjust your surroundings to your goals. If there’s a negative person in your life that you’d like to avoid, the last thing you should care about is that person’s approval for your decision. It’s tough, but if you feel deep within that change is necessary, go for it regardless of what others think.

3. You don’t need approval for changing your behavior.

Your family, friends, and colleagues may be used to a certain behavior you represent so once you start acting differently, it obviously puts you in the center of attention. Some might start to question that change, but this shouldn’t bother you. As long as you don’t hurt anyone, you have a full right to change the way you behave whenever you want.

If you are a shy or introverted person, however, you’d like to socialize more and become outgoing, the process of change will attract some attention. This might make you feel afraid of being judged, but same as for above examples, you don’t need anyone’s approval for such a transformation. Some people say, fake it until you make it. I would explicate it by saying that you fake it until you believe it. While you do it, forget about how others perceive you.

4. You don’t need approval for changing your beliefs.

Many people were raised according to certain beliefs and dogmas reckoned to be the best in their culture. The truth is, some folks born within that environment don’t accept these as the ultimate truths and see the world completely different.

However, there’s a social pressure which makes it harder to abandon the tradition. Conservative people brought up in that very culture will expect you to behave accordingly. Every move in the opposite direction causes disapproval. They are deeply convinced that’s the straight way to destroy your life, but the fact is, it’s you who’s living it.

When I declared to my family that my personal beliefs vary a lot from what they taught me, at first, I faced huge disapproval. Honestly, I wasn’t surprised, but while stating it, I wasn’t looking for their approval, but just sharing the information. Over time, the tension fades away and you are happy about being authentic and true to yourself.

5. You don’t need approval for your life priorities.

The typical life priorities vary from culture to culture, however, they have one thing in common. Namely, people look skeptic whenever you refuse to follow. A young person nowadays is supposed to get a degree, get a good job, build a house, buy a fancy car and fully enjoy their success. For some, this might be the best scenario imaginable. Others might consider it a nightmare. Whatever applies to you, it’s your and only your business.

If your number one priority in life is to help people in need, but your parents dream of you becoming a lawyer, then you’ll definitely meet with disapproval. Disappointing your loved ones hurts both you and them. However, a life filled out with regret may be even more harmful. Oppose to misconceptions, it’s following your heart and intuition that’s closest to what you really want to achieve.

6. You don’t need approval for fulfilling your deepest desires.

You may want to do something so crazy that just thinking about it blows your mind. Something you always wanted to do, a desire hidden deep within your soul. But for some reason, you keep procrastinating and putting it off.

If “some reason” happens to be the criticism from your surroundings, it’s time to face the truth and abandon the seek for validation. Most people prefer safety and security. A person who hates sticking out from the crowd is not appropriate for a mentor when it comes to going insane so their approval is the last thing you’ll ever need.

7. You don’t need approval for your relationship choices.

Relationship choices are fully private issues, yet plenty of people shamelessly judge others’ choices. What they base their judgments on, however, is just a surface. Only you and your loved one know each element of your relationship, that most people may not even notice.

Some relationships draw a lot of attention in certain cultures and experience social pressure and negativity. Narrow-minded people may try to destroy them, as they are deeply convinced they are unacceptable. The truth is, their disapproval doesn’t play any role. They may be loud, but their words are meaningless. Follow your heart and ignore the naysayers.

8. You don’t need approval for your passions.

Imagine a man pursuing to be a ballet dancer or a woman who falls in love with lifting weights. Both are incredibly passionate about it and highly determined to get to the top. There’s a beauty in how they spare no effort to overcome every obstacle and become better.

However, some people won’t notice that. The only thing they see is a controversy — people doing something they don’t consider adequate for their gender. These passionate individuals stick out, so the crowd notices and weak people laugh at them. They may lack approval from the society but in reality, they don’t need it.

Following your passion leads to success, even if there are countless failures along the way. At some point, your success and determination make the defeatists so small you no longer recognize them.

9. You don’t need approval for your eating habits.

What you put in your body is what you become. Why would you let anyone determine that choice? Eating is such a basic task required to survive, yet it’s very controversial. Different diets and eating patterns are always a hot topic of discussion, be it in the mass media or on the Internet. For example, becoming a vegetarian or vegan can be perceived as crazy. Same thing applies when you base your diet mostly on meat and fats. It’s because “healthy” and “normal” are subjective words.

First of all, eating healthy is not an absolute value, various people see it differently. Secondly, you shouldn’t even care about eating “normally” because it varies from culture to culture. Stick to your personal choice regardless of the opinion of others. Ultimately, it’s your stomach that’s going to digest it.

10. You don’t need approval for following intuition.

There’s a voice hidden deep in your soul which gives you advice on how to act, also known as intuition. This instinct may serve you life-changing tips, but it definitely won’t give you any common advice. Following the typical path often conflicts with our hearts. Simply because the average life is not what we were meant for.

Then again, living a life driven by passion and inner desire isn’t easy. Being aberrational is uncomfortable since your intuition is constantly questioned by society’s norms. The fact is, once you accept that lack of approval for sticking to your instinct, you’ll feel more authentic, content and satisfied.